My nephew Cody started walking last week and in doing so, he taught me an invaluable lesson about how I need to shift my mindset in my business.
As I watched Cody cycle through a series of wobbly steps and quick falls, I was entranced by his palpable joy.
I was captivated by him, beyond the normal sense of excitement that he was walking and I watched the video my brother sent over and over, trying to figure out why.
It finally occurred to me that what I loved most about the video was that Cody didn’t seem discouraged by the fact that he’s not very good at walking right now.
His lack of proficiency doesn’t matter because Cody doesn’t look at falling as failing. He just accepts falling as a part of the process.
Around my 10th time of watching the video, I thought “I want to be more like that.”
His consistent excitement throughout the process of learning something new — walking — seemed in sharp contrast to the mixture of anxiety, fear and self judgement that I often experience when I try something new, particularly in my business.
As a mindset coach, I know I’m supposed to look at things that don’t go as planned from the perspective of “What can I learn from this?”
However, that’s not always easy for me.
When I have a business “fall” — like a program launch that doesn’t go the way I hoped or planned — my brain immediately wants to label it as “failure”.
This leads to me to think thoughts like “I sucked and won’t do that again” or worse, I look at my “failure” as evidence that I don’t have what it takes to succeed long term.
Cody’s excitement to get up and try again after a fall was a clear demonstration to me of how much easier it would be for me to try again if I let go of my own judgements when things don’t go as I had planned.
How To Create A Success Mindset
Disengaging from the tendency to judge a fall as a failure can be difficult when you have put a lot of effort into something that didn’t work out as you hoped.
This series of questions, partially based on a framework developed by Brooke Castillo, are what I will be using to keep myself from labeling a fall as a failure in the future:
1- What if it’s possible that this fall is a part of the process of moving toward success, rather than a failure?
2- If I view this as a fall rather than a failure, how do I feel?
3- What actions would I be inspired to take if this was just a fall, not a failure?
4- What results would I likely see from taking those actions?
(Important note: It’s natural to feel some disappointment after a fall. I’m not suggesting that you won’t, or that being disappointed is bad. Allow yourself some time and space to feel disappointed, then use these questions to help you avoid shifting into self-judgement.)
Using the four questions above to help shift your mindset around a “fall” in your business (or life) will help you maintain forward momentum and put the fun back in the process of trying new things.
What aspect of your business or life can you apply this to now? Share below!
PS- For more inspiration, here’s the video of Cody’s first steps:
PPS- If you’ve been struggling to get back on your feet after a “fall”, let’s talk! I’ve opened up 3 new spots in my coaching practice. Click here to fill out a quick questionnaire and schedule a complimentary discovery call. I’d love to help you recapture your joy 🙂