Tranquil Clouds and Deep Blue Sky

I broke up with my phone while I was on vacation in Europe. And it was wonderful.

9 days.

No calls.

No emails.

No texts.

Not that I don’t enjoy a good text exchange, or the convenience that comes with being able to call someone if you are late or lost,  but damn it was nice to be free for the week.

Smart phones, the things that were supposed to make our lives easier and better, now own us. We are their b*tches.

Distracted driving, over-scheduled lives, and scattered thinking are now common place because we can’t put our phones down long enough to complete the task in front of us.

(I’m texting as I write this 🙂

I felt so relaxed on my trip and I believe part of the reason is I wasn’t constantly being interrupted by texts, emails and phone calls.

I don’t know about you, but I can get so worried about missing out on something important, that I do miss out on the most important thing…..the person (or task) right in front of me.

(And if you think that either the person you are with or the task you are doing isn’t important, then I think you should reconsider how you spend your time.)

Moment of Truth: how many of you have spent an evening in the same room with a friend or loved one but never interacted with each other, only your phones? Or gone somewhere cool and immediately checked in on Facebook instead of enjoying the awesomeness of where you are?

Yeah, me too.


We are no longer fully present in our lives. Technology is destroying the very thing it was meant to help foster, which is connection.

I want to feel less frazzled and more peaceful during my day. And not just when I’m on vacation.

So, I came up with a list of habits I am committing to so that my smart phone becomes my b*tch from now on.


The 4 new boundaries I am setting with my phone

1. I will no longer text or check emails at stoplights.

Texting while driving is dangerous. It shouldn’t be done at all. So that won’t even be a rule here. But I have a tendency to pick up my phone at a stoplight to either send a text or check email. Which means I’m not paying attention to what’s going on around me until the light turns green and the person behind me honks.

2. I will designate at least one night per week as technology-free night.

No texting, emailing or Facebook-ing after 6 pm. Period.

3. I will not check my phone when I am out to eat with a friend, even if they go to the restroom.

Previously, I would have said that if someone leaves the table, it is perfectly acceptable to check for texts, emails, etc. And technically, it’s not rude. But I believe this habit is about honoring your brain’s need to do one thing AND ONE THING ONLY for longer than 5 minutes at a time.

4. I will not check my email obsessively during the day.

This will be one of the hardest ones for me to follow. I have a tendency to check my email when I am bored or stressed or lonely or… get the picture. I think I am getting ahead by checking my email so frequently. Instead, I get distracted. So moving forward, I will pick 3-4 times during the day when I will check and respond to emails.


Going forward, I won’t need a trans-Atlantic flight to help me break free from my co-dependence on my phone. From here on out, I’m in charge, not my phone.

What habits will you put in place to make your phone your b*tch? Post them below!